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"Loving yourself doesn't mean you forget everyone else and focus on yourself. No. It means compassion, love, hope for everything, and since you have to start somewhere, it's good to start with yourself. The world changes one person, one act at a time."

That morning was a bit busy, so the morning walk was short, too short. I didn't think beyond my nose. In the herding training the dog had a lot of power and speed, which I as a shepherd could not calm i.e. I got really frustrated. The coach at the edge of the fence shouts, you're always a second late, fix it, don't get nervous. During a SECOND, a miserable second, during that second, the dog had time to run, move or not move, it actually neither listened nor obeyed any of my commands properly, and since I was one second late the whole time, the sheep, five of them, gathered really tightly around my legs, so I could not move and was more late in my doings. I understand now anyone who has lost the race by a second or a hundredth, really frustrating!Well, on the way home, I brought her behavior up and asked why did she do what she did, to which the dog  that why should she obey me and the question mark after the sentence was bigger than the dog itself. And she continued that she knows more about shepherding than I do. Okay! What did I do then? Well, the same method as with children: blackmail. That if her behavior doesn't change, this joy is short lived, this hobby is so expensive. Next time I had a totally different dog, but guess how long :).

I love especially Joe Dispenza´s morning meditations. I think they make me a better person. Meditation is a good key to self-knowledge! I think the furry lady of the house also wants to explore her inner world as she takes part every morning in my meditation session. The morning goes often like this: we wake up, go to toilet me inside, she outside, then a cup of coffee to me, perhaps morning news. She knows exactly when it is time to go upstairs and start. So every morning me and the furry lady beside me focus on who we want to be as individuals and who we do not want to be. However, I am a bit concerned as the furry lady´s memory must be really bad as she does not remember later on outside that she has just chosen to be nice to everyone and not to bark at any other furry individual. I of course have no problems being my best self 24/7!

Years ago, I attended an event where one of the speakers gave a presentation on creativity and its utilization at work. He started his presentation with an example and asked a woman sitting in the front row what kind of relationship she has with her mother. The woman said that she has a really good relationship with her mother. To this, the speaker stated that I have the exact opposite experience, the relationship between me and my mother is not good. He continued: if I asked you now about what a mother is like, you would give a completely different answer than I do. He continued still. The box through which I look and value the word mother is completely different from yours. My box is small and through it I only see the things that I want to see and that I myself have experienced. Your box is much bigger than mine because your experiences are different, certainly mostly positive. He continued the train of thought further. It is almost impossible to get such a person who looks at the world through a small box to change his way of thinking. He doesn't see what someone else sees when looking through a bigger box. If you are unable to enlarge your own box, you will remain a prisoner of your small box and it will be almost impossible for you to understand or accept someone else's views, suggestions, plans or even creativity. Twenty years have passed since this event. Best thing from this presentation to me was that It made me think about things completely differently and really examine the size of my own box.

The older you get, the more often you think about which comes first: the loss of physical fitness or the loss of memory. It would be so nice to drop dead as old as you want in full strength of body and soul. Why does this come to my mind just now? I have been following in Instagram a lady Debra Kostiw. She is dedicated to helping people whose loved ones have dementia or Alzheimer's. Her attitude is so hilarious and gentle and respecting. She says that as people with dementia or Alzheimer`s do not live in the same reality as we do, it is no use trying to change their perspective but to play with them and that way get them to forget and change what they are doing or seeing.  I have to tip my boys :)!

My mother was a very talented dressmaker by profession. She was also very particular about colors and what went well together. Every time I see this photo I think that my mother would turn around, so to speak, in her grave if she saw the colors of my outfit. The photo has been taken a couple of years ago before a herding training. The trainer wanted to show us how hard it is for a human to move pack of sheep without a dog. This individual wanted to have a healing session with me. I think she enjoyed it!